“Maybe that’s what you heard in your head, but it’s not what I said.”

“You’re too sensitive.”

“It’s not a big deal.”

See also

• How to set boundaries

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• How to respond to lies

• How to set boundaries with a partner

• Why do we communicate what is untrue?

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What does gaslighting feel like? (Source: The Psychology Group)

What does gaslighting sound like? (Source: The Psychology Group)

Talking Points

• We remember things differently.
• If you continue to speak to me like this, I’m not engaging.
• I realize you disagree with me, and this is how I see the things: <describe concisely your side of the story>
• I understand that your intention was to make a joke, and the impact was hurtful