How to give sympathy for the loss of a parent

“The death of any loved parent is an incalcuable lasting blow because no one ever loves you again like that.”

— Brenda Ueland

“If there is any immortality to be had among us human beings, it is certainly only in the love that we leave behind. Fathers like mine don’t ever die.”

— Leo Buscaglia

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Grief from loss is an ugly, sticky thing that colors everything in sadness and chaos. It robs all moments of joy and many a bereaved person have been lost in its abyss.
A kind word or acknowledgment of their pain can offer solace during a difficult time.
Tip: Often people avoid talking about the person who has passed out of fear of reminding their friend of their loss. But here’s the truth - they never forget and you talking about someone they loved very much may give them the opportunity to relive those golden moments.

Talking Points

I’m so sorry that you and your mom/dad are now parted.
Although your mother is no longer with us, she will always be remembered. I see many of your mother’s greatest qualities in you.
If she were here right now, she would be so proud of the way you are handling this.
My favorite memory of your mother is when…
Your dad was the kind of person all of us want to be.
Please accept our deepest sympathy and heartfelt thoughts.
May time accomplish what no words can do.
Words are so inadequate at a time like this.
May God be with you at this time.
There is so little one can say, but my heart goes out to you.
My heart is reaching out to you in sympathy and prayer.